How to Start with
Peer Coaching in
5 Minutes

Emotional Fitness takes 5 minutes to learn - and a lifetime to master. Based on decades of experience around the world, we have distilled the basics for psychologically safe peer coaching into four principles and a powerful but simple conversation layout.

First, we'll start with our basic principles of good listening and coaching in this 4-minute introduction video with Fredrik Eklöf, CEO & Founder, and Alexandra Gómez, Head of Quality and Pedagogy.

The Four Principles

The four most basic principles of Emotional Fitness Peer Coaching are:
  1. Full Benign Attention, No Advice
    We are able to think more clearly when we can think out loud, especially when we have someone who is truly listening. While we humans often enjoy giving advice, we rarely respond positively to receiving advice. Therefore, the principle of not giving advice is of great importance.

  2. Timeboxing
    Two or more people take equally long turns being the coach and coachee with each other. This mutual exchange makes our coaching more relevant, safer (for most people) - and fully scalable. For everyone. By everyone.

  3. Emotions Are Welcome
    Emotions are an important part of sustainable personal and professional development and strengthen relationships. You will learn perspectives and tools to confidently welcome emotions, should they surface.

  4. Double Confidentiality
    To peer coach on our platform, you need to agree to not share personal information from the people you coach with, and to not even bring it up with the person in question without first asking for permission.  

With the four basic principles in your Coach's Toolkit, now you just need to know how a peer coaching session is done in practice.

This is how you do a 1-to-1 peer coaching sessions:

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You can watch Fredrik Eklöf present these same steps with some tips in a video (9 min).

Believe it or not, but with this you are actually ready to start coaching! All you have to do is to sign the Emotional Fitness Peer Coaching Agreement below.

You are not the world’s most experienced coach 😀- and you may still feel like you don't know what to say or do 😱 - but join a group peer coaching sessions under guidance of an experienced peer coach facilitator, and discover that you actually are knowledgeable enough to have and give your first peer coaching insights.

Also, you will have opportunities to ask and learn more about it when you join our Facebook group and our Group Peer Coaching sessions.

Sign the Peer Coaching Agreement

To ensure the safety and confidentiality of everyone on our platform, we need to know that you agree to the principles from the video before you get to actually start peer coaching.

If you're not ready to sign yet, you will get new chances to sign off on each principle after the videos to come.